This blog was created for students to discuss bullying issues they have in or out of school. Anyone can comment! Feel free to offer words of advice or encouragement to others that are in need. If you have something to say...say it in a positive manner. Inappropriate or negative comments will not be tolerated. You may leave your name with your comment, or you may post anonymously.
May the FORCE be with you and guide you with GOD SPEED. You will really never know how many victims you can empower and save through this program. But we must all, at least attempt to be ambassadors for everyone involved. So let's help a brotha out.
bullies are not fun, but if you feel to, ask the the bully why he/she is bullying you,because usually they are the victim. it could be something at home or something bad in their life, and don't be so quick to criticize because they are as much of a victim as you are. Criticizing other people and judging them without getting to ACTUALLY know them first is bullying too you know.
Bullying is a learned behavior. Most bullies learn the negative behavior from their parents, and they mimic their actions. Also, insecurity is a prominent characteristic of a bully. Bullies are often bullied or neglected at home, so they lash out to bring others down with them. Bullying is an imbalance of power between the perpetrator and the victim. The victim is weak, thus giving the bully the ultimate power. Bullies crave power. The victory over the power struggle allows the bully to feel good about themselves, and it gives them a false sense of security. With this said, I agree with your comment on some level. One should always hear both sides of the story, bc more than likely, the bully has issues of their own. However, I do not agree with bullying behavior. If someone is having trouble at home, or if there's something going on that's bad in their life, they should talk to an adult (counselor, teacher, parent) and learn positive problem-solving techniques for dealing with their issues. It is never ok to hurt another person just bc you are feeling bad. And...it's hard to get to know someone when they are constantly being mean to you. I really like your idea of talking to the bully and asking them WHY they are bullying you. Showing the bully that you care would throw them off-guard. They may think twice about bullying you next time, bc they know how genuine you are. Great comment!!
HAd someone tell me the other day that they wouldn't be here if God didn't exist. True! Life is so much more manageable and rewarding w GOD by your side. Just saying.... SWAG
I dont usually talk. I have 3 or 4 friends and I usually read in class. Im really shy. Sometimes i want to say something and then I wonder what people will think. I retreat inside myself all the time.I feel randomly depressed most of the time. It hits me out of nowhere. There is no warning, no apparent reason. It just happens. I feel empty, and I feel hopeless. And I just feel tired. As if I never want to move again. Then when someone asks me what's wrong, I can't say because there is nothing that comes to mind. Then I start thinking of what it could be, and I realize just how much is wrong. I feel like a misfit, I feel different, like no one understands me. But I'm just like everyone else. I'm a follower. I do whatever I can to fit into society. I absolutely drown in my thoughts and I'm sinking to the bottom.
Well, I applaud you for speaking up at all. The first step is recognizing and admitting that you feel depressed - like you're sinking. The 2nd step is seeking help. Sometimes, we need help from others and it's ok. It does not mean that we are weak, it just means that we are smart in knowing that their will always be someone that knows more than we do. In this case, there is someone that knows more about how to handle your empty feelings in a positive and healthy manner. I suggest that you talk to your school counselor before anyone. Your school counselor is trained and educated on how to handle these types of situations. If you feel like you cannot talk to your counselor for some reason, then you should talk to your parents, another teacher, a friend, administrator, etc. Someone can help you learn how to deal with your lonely feelings. Someone is there to listen to you and offer advice. The biggest thing that we all must do is to SPEAK UP!! One of my favorite quotes..."There is no shame in stepping forward, but there is great risk in holding back and hoping everything will work out ok.” With this said, be strong!!! and ask for help. You never know how many others are out there that are just like you. Good luck! Let me know what you decide to do...
You should try writing it down in a note. That way you can say what you mean and mean what you say. Pretend that it is only for your eyes. Be honest. Then, give it to a trusted adult and let them read it. You could even copy or print what you wrote before. I think you did a great job of putting your feelings into words. I understood exactly what you meant when I read your first comment. You should give yourself some credit. You are better at putting your feelings into words than you may think. I think you write well:)
Everyone is kind of weird at times..everyone has something that's odd, peculiar, or different about them. So, you can imagine that everyone has their own thoughts, feelings, words, or letters that they keep private bc they may sound weird to others. But that's the beauty of it... we're all kind of weird...and that's normal!!
hi i feel like nobody cares about me and i dont matter, nobody cares what i think , do , or say its like i dont exist on this planet what can i do , why do people ignore me . I am not a bully im not wierd what do i do to feel better and be noticed if i attend a privete catholic shool with strickt uniforms and rules with restrictions when i dont feel comfotable talking to our counciler.
I feel like that too. I'm weird. And you don't HAVE to be noticed, unless you want to be. If you do want to be noticed and acknowledged, then try participating in some school activities or events. ;)
You do matter. Everyone has a role in this play of life. Sometimes you get a call-back, or find a different part to play, but you still HAVE a part. ;)
If you don't feel comfortable talking to your counselor, you can do one of two things...1) ask a fried to go with you, it's always easier to do things with someone by your side; 2) talk to another adult that you trust, like one of your teachers, parents, or other faculty members at your school. Also, you need to loosen up a bit. I know you're shy, but the only way to overcome it is to try new things. I heard a quote last week that I really like, "Being shy is the most selfish and self-centered way to act bc you're only worrying about how YOU feel and what others will think of YOU." So true...you really won't know what others think unless you put yourself out there and start talking. Someone else may be shy and wanting to talk or make new friends just like you. By you stepping forward and making the first attempt to talk to them, you could really make another person feel welcome and liked. Think about it...also, I will add a link below to an article that I like called "5 Ways to Shake Shyness". Read it and let me know what you think. And, I completely agree with Nimzy on this one...you should try participating in some school activities or events. You can practice shaking your shyness by interacting with new people. You will already have something in common..the activity or event. But remember, you'll never know until you at least try! Good luck, and keep me posted. <3, SWAG
You have SOMETHING in common with EVERYONE! It might not stick out and be super noticeable, but it's there. One can like dance AND other things. You have to find out what the other things are, and the only way to find out is to start talking. Maybe you have some classes together? Art? Band? Choir? You could spark up a conversation by asking for help picking a special color for your art project, or compliment them on how well they sing or play. Are there any after school programs you could attend, like study hall or after care? These would be great places to make new friends. If you've tried everything you can think of, and nothing seems to be working, maybe you should consider expanding your horizons. You shouldn't just focus on one specific group of girls. Venture out to other groups, too, until you find some friends that you are comfortable with.
Do you agree with this quote? Reply your answer to me.
"They say committing suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do, but that's not true. For somebody to commit suicide they must be seriously depressed, and forcing them to live a life of misery would be just as selfish."
This blog was created for students to discuss bullying issues they have in or out of school. Anyone can comment! Feel free to offer words of advice or encouragement to others that are in need. If you have something to say...say it in a positive manner. Inappropriate or negative comments will not be tolerated. You may leave your name with your comment, or you may post anonymously.
ReplyDeleteMay the FORCE be with you and guide you with GOD SPEED. You will really never know how many victims you can empower and save through this program. But we must all, at least attempt to be ambassadors for everyone involved. So let's help a brotha out.
Deletebullies are not fun, but if you feel to, ask the the bully why he/she is bullying you,because usually they are the victim. it could be something at home or something bad in their life, and don't be so quick to criticize because they are as much of a victim as you are. Criticizing other people and judging them without getting to ACTUALLY know them first is bullying too you know.
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Bullying is a learned behavior. Most bullies learn the negative behavior from their parents, and they mimic their actions. Also, insecurity is a prominent characteristic of a bully. Bullies are often bullied or neglected at home, so they lash out to bring others down with them. Bullying is an imbalance of power between the perpetrator and the victim. The victim is weak, thus giving the bully the ultimate power. Bullies crave power. The victory over the power struggle allows the bully to feel good about themselves, and it gives them a false sense of security. With this said, I agree with your comment on some level. One should always hear both sides of the story, bc more than likely, the bully has issues of their own. However, I do not agree with bullying behavior. If someone is having trouble at home, or if there's something going on that's bad in their life, they should talk to an adult (counselor, teacher, parent) and learn positive problem-solving techniques for dealing with their issues. It is never ok to hurt another person just bc you are feeling bad. And...it's hard to get to know someone when they are constantly being mean to you. I really like your idea of talking to the bully and asking them WHY they are bullying you. Showing the bully that you care would throw them off-guard. They may think twice about bullying you next time, bc they know how genuine you are. Great comment!!
ReplyDeletehey if you are being bullied please send a comment we are here to help you not make more fun of you
ReplyDelete-Swag Member
if u are being bullied and feel dispear we've got the advice you need so let me help you
ReplyDeleteIf you're being bullied:eat pudding and just be awesomeness
ReplyDeleteIf you are a bully:eat pudding and FLUFFIN CHILL OUT
everyone just remeber, life goes on. God is there with you!
ReplyDeleteSure life goes on but the memories are still there. :/ You cant forget some things.
DeleteHAd someone tell me the other day that they wouldn't be here if God didn't exist. True! Life is so much more manageable and rewarding w GOD by your side. Just saying....
ReplyDeleteSWAG
for those who are getting bullied, be patient. God is going to help you. whatever happens happens for a reason.
ReplyDeleteI dont usually talk. I have 3 or 4 friends and I usually read in class. Im really shy. Sometimes i want to say something and then I wonder what people will think. I retreat inside myself all the time.I feel randomly depressed most of the time. It hits me out of nowhere. There is no warning, no apparent reason. It just happens. I feel empty, and I feel hopeless. And I just feel tired. As if I never want to move again. Then when someone asks me what's wrong, I can't say because there is nothing that comes to mind. Then I start thinking of what it could be, and I realize just how much is wrong. I feel like a misfit, I feel different, like no one understands me. But I'm just like everyone else. I'm a follower. I do whatever I can to fit into society. I absolutely drown in my thoughts and I'm sinking to the bottom.
ReplyDeleteWell, I applaud you for speaking up at all. The first step is recognizing and admitting that you feel depressed - like you're sinking. The 2nd step is seeking help. Sometimes, we need help from others and it's ok. It does not mean that we are weak, it just means that we are smart in knowing that their will always be someone that knows more than we do. In this case, there is someone that knows more about how to handle your empty feelings in a positive and healthy manner. I suggest that you talk to your school counselor before anyone. Your school counselor is trained and educated on how to handle these types of situations. If you feel like you cannot talk to your counselor for some reason, then you should talk to your parents, another teacher, a friend, administrator, etc. Someone can help you learn how to deal with your lonely feelings. Someone is there to listen to you and offer advice. The biggest thing that we all must do is to SPEAK UP!! One of my favorite quotes..."There is no shame in stepping forward, but there is great risk in holding back and hoping everything will work out ok.” With this said, be strong!!! and ask for help. You never know how many others are out there that are just like you. Good luck! Let me know what you decide to do...
ReplyDeleteI know exactly how i feel. I just cant put into into words!!
DeleteOnline I can because i know no ones watching but actually telling someone? :/
DeleteYou should try writing it down in a note. That way you can say what you mean and mean what you say. Pretend that it is only for your eyes. Be honest. Then, give it to a trusted adult and let them read it. You could even copy or print what you wrote before. I think you did a great job of putting your feelings into words. I understood exactly what you meant when I read your first comment. You should give yourself some credit. You are better at putting your feelings into words than you may think. I think you write well:)
DeleteThanks! I actually have written everything down. Some of them I dont want anyone to see. Ive never shown anyone those. Theyre kind of weird.
DeleteI firgured out how to change the name on here... i was the person that was replying to you Ill be using this name. Just telling you.
DeleteEveryone is kind of weird at times..everyone has something that's odd, peculiar, or different about them. So, you can imagine that everyone has their own thoughts, feelings, words, or letters that they keep private bc they may sound weird to others. But that's the beauty of it... we're all kind of weird...and that's normal!!
ReplyDeleteI dont take chances. I wish I did though.
ReplyDeleteThat person that takes chances,
That person who makes her own decisions,
That person who isn't scared,
That person who lives.
I made the poem above. Hope you like it.
hi i feel like nobody cares about me and i dont matter, nobody cares what i think , do , or say its like i dont exist on this planet what can i do , why do people ignore me . I am not a bully im not wierd what do i do to feel better and be noticed if i attend a privete catholic shool with strickt uniforms and rules with restrictions when i dont feel comfotable talking to our counciler.
ReplyDeleteI feel like that too. I'm weird. And you don't HAVE to be noticed, unless you want to be. If you do want to be noticed and acknowledged, then try participating in some school activities or events. ;)
DeleteYou do matter. Everyone has a role in this play of life. Sometimes you get a call-back, or find a different part to play, but you still HAVE a part. ;)
DeleteIf you don't feel comfortable talking to your counselor, you can do one of two things...1) ask a fried to go with you, it's always easier to do things with someone by your side; 2) talk to another adult that you trust, like one of your teachers, parents, or other faculty members at your school. Also, you need to loosen up a bit. I know you're shy, but the only way to overcome it is to try new things. I heard a quote last week that I really like, "Being shy is the most selfish and self-centered way to act bc you're only worrying about how YOU feel and what others will think of YOU." So true...you really won't know what others think unless you put yourself out there and start talking. Someone else may be shy and wanting to talk or make new friends just like you. By you stepping forward and making the first attempt to talk to them, you could really make another person feel welcome and liked. Think about it...also, I will add a link below to an article that I like called "5 Ways to Shake Shyness". Read it and let me know what you think. And, I completely agree with Nimzy on this one...you should try participating in some school activities or events. You can practice shaking your shyness by interacting with new people. You will already have something in common..the activity or event. But remember, you'll never know until you at least try! Good luck, and keep me posted. <3, SWAG
ReplyDeletei looked but i dont even have the same the intrestes they like dance i dont we have nothing in common.What can i do?
ReplyDeletep.s. this is the same shy pearson
You have SOMETHING in common with EVERYONE! It might not stick out and be super noticeable, but it's there. One can like dance AND other things. You have to find out what the other things are, and the only way to find out is to start talking. Maybe you have some classes together? Art? Band? Choir? You could spark up a conversation by asking for help picking a special color for your art project, or compliment them on how well they sing or play. Are there any after school programs you could attend, like study hall or after care? These would be great places to make new friends. If you've tried everything you can think of, and nothing seems to be working, maybe you should consider expanding your horizons. You shouldn't just focus on one specific group of girls. Venture out to other groups, too, until you find some friends that you are comfortable with.
ReplyDeletePoll:
ReplyDeleteDo you agree with this quote?
Reply your answer to me.
"They say committing suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do, but that's not true. For somebody to commit suicide they must be seriously depressed, and forcing them to live a life of misery would be just as selfish."
I agree with this and I don't. What about you?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yY-LCMhXh3U
ReplyDeleteThis song describes how I feel every single day of my life.
EDIT:
ReplyDeleteThree songs descibe my life every single day and how I feel.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yY-LCMhXh3U
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4v5z4Yd0blI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gT67pctOcms